FAMILY MARRIAGE

Marriage is one of the  greatest scientific and fundamental rituals our ancestors started to sustain human life on earth.
          In India, during old times, arranged marriages were so successful because youngster's behavior was and could be easily predicted from his/her brought-up.Family members used to  live pretty close;so most of their personalities are influenced by the family living close.Hence people can match up the youth ,who suits whom, depending on their background.As the generation changed and with the increasing awareness, now most of the children are spending most of their prime time of their life away from the parents and in an atmosphere unknown.Their personality take shape depending on lot of factors out of reach and unknown for the parents.This is leading to the mismatch of  many of today's couples and awfully increasing divorces.The number would have been even worse as we are seeing in USA(even though the choice is taken by youth themselves there) if not for the culture we are in here and the belief we have in the sacredness of marriage and people preferring to compromise than divorce each other.
  
  Love marriage is a kind of solution to this which in itself is not self sufficient  and also not completely reliable.It has its own problems because here we are giving choice to choose, to the people who think they are mature enough to think and decide whom they want but MAY NOT BE. This is a matter of faith,one of the fundamental principles of life.Parents should be convinced that their children have grown up to take a leap ahead  themselves and the youth should understand the concerns of their parents who too has right reasons because here love brings two people together but marriage brings two communities together .Thus the decision to marry someone should be the one both parties are convinced and content with ,not compromised with under the illusion of not trying to hurt each other and it should be the one taken together but not fighting each other .DO NOT SACRIFICE LOVE ;  DO NOT FIGHT FOR IT...just use what you have learnt from it..loving people and helping your family understand your love better.............people go extremes within their resources to convince those they love......but do not care so much to explain it to their parents because they forget a simple fact that they love their parents too.....

it all boils down to this..you want the same thing as your family does...your marriage should result in another important marriage between you and your family not a divorce...... .YOU WANT YOUR FAMILY TO BE HAPPY JUST AS YOUR FAMILY WANTS YOU TO BE ,WHICH INCLUDES YOU TOO.....;-)

clarification:the fundamental meaning of the word "marriage" as I used is - A close and intimate union

THE TRAGEDY

ONE MOMENT..........one moment can change everything.....thrash every hope for you.....change your future course....change every plan you had.

But man is like a flowing stream;when you try stopping it with some impediment,it tries to flow over it or changes its course and continues to flow but doesnot stop flowing there ;of course it takes some time and energy changing the course for a man...but that is what life is....action takes only a moment but the consequences go long way and far....it all comes down to this..how fast you accept those moments as a part
and experiences of your life ,change your course and how fast you take over your new course...

         But the time between that moment and the moment u set on new course is what we call hell.....u feel the impact of that impediment all this time..at  first ,immediately after that moment you may not feel anything and you think you have already overcome the impact but  that is not what it is...the impact has not started yet...devil takes its time to work through your mind...u get frustrated..u will have sleepless nights...you might look idle to people outside but your mind will be going through alot...starting from how you could have avoided that moment,what might be the reasons for that moment to occur,trying to blame someone for what happened and finally arrives at the mirror......may not be because you are the reason, but to see what you
have become trying to find it..that is when you stop looking into what happened again and again and start accepting it...the sooner you arrive at something the faster you accept it and move on in your new course ,hopefully with more energy and enthusiasm because you know the cost of your new course...

   GOD!!!  I love me a lot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!B-)  19:32 22-12-2010